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9/18/15
Dating The Bad Guy an Infographic explaining WHY we like dating the bad boys
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5/28/15
How to be successful at getting things done
Hello everyone! It has been a while since I posted in this blog. I wanted to post something that I think might help you all out with reaching your daily goals. Are you struggling to get things done everyday? I have been until I decided to take my own advice. Take a look at this post I made last night with some great tips in it about getting things done.
http://dailytwocents.com/how-to-avoid-distractions-and-get-things-done/
Let me know what you think by commenting on the article. Are some of these good tips that you think will help you?
Have a great day!
http://dailytwocents.com/how-to-avoid-distractions-and-get-things-done/
Let me know what you think by commenting on the article. Are some of these good tips that you think will help you?
Have a great day!
2/17/15
How I Became Successful at Writing and How You Can Too
Writing
is a gift but can be learned too
Although writing is a gift, it can also be learned.
I was born to write. I started writing after my brother died when I was just 12
years old. He was only 22 years old and was murdered by his wife because he
wanted to divorce her. So, after he died, I wrote a poem dedicated to him. I
think my mom still has it packed away somewhere.
Never
give up, never quit!
I quit writing for a long time after that because I
got in with the wrong crowd and started doing things at a young age that I
shouldn’t have been doing. However, when I was 17, I met my now husband and I
quit everything I was doing wrong. A few years went by and we got a computer
and the Internet. This is when I discovered my love for writing again. I
started writing short fiction stories for myself and articles for what was then
Associated Content. That was 8 years ago and now I am a successful writer
writing for a bunch of different websites and a few private clients.
Be
successful
I started out writing for Associated Content 8 years
ago and then a few years later, Yahoo bought them out. They kept me on. That
was great! I was making even more money and even made it into the Top 1,000 Contributors
for four years in a row. I eventually made it into the Hot 500 Contributors for
a few months until they closed their doors for good. They only gave us a two
week warning that they were closing down and for us to take our articles off
the site to be able to use them someplace else. I did but I actually lost them
altogether when I stupidly didn’t back them up and my computer crashed and
died. Let that be a warning to you. Make sure to back all of your stuff up. I now
do and use dropbox. Make sure to do this because you never know if something will
happen to your computer one day and you lose everything on it. It is really bad
when that happens!
Your
writing dreams can come true too!
Since Yahoo closed down, I applied for Examiner and
got in right away. I have been writing for them for three years now and they
also invited me to write for their sister site, AXS which I have been writing
for a few months now. Actually, just this morning, I was also invited to write
for CBS Local through Examiner. I applied and am waiting to hear back from them
now. They only invite top quality writers who are active on Examiner.
Be
patient! Practice makes perfect
I also write for Immortal News, Newslines, a few
private clients, and a couple of other small sites. I love what I do. Although
I was born to write, it can be learned as well. However, it does take patience
and hard work to be successful at it. Work at it every day. Write every day. It
doesn’t matter what you write even if you write nonsense, just write every day.
Set up a blog and blog about life, your pets, making money, your work, anything
you want. The sky is the limit with writing! I am sure everyone knows the
saying, ‘practice makes perfect.’ This applies to writing as well. As long as
you do it every day, you will get awesome at it and will get paid for it. You
will also one day be invited to write for big name sites. Just write!
Check out my writing portfolio for all of my different sites I write for and the articles I have written.
Also, I have a couple of different blogs if anyone reading this would like to check them out too.
Thanks for reading and I want to thank the owner of this blog for letting me contribute to it.
7/24/14
You and your credit score
There are tons of information on how to grow your credit rating and, yup! Here's one more. I cant wait til they have one titled,
How to fix all your credit scew ups.
5/17/14
How To: Sex, Advice on Making Love Like a PORN STAR
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Sex Tips to have you rocking your bedroom like a PORNSTAR!!!!!!
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/2NzGUM/:DXSyFG8q:2p49LWH3/www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=How_to_Make_Love_Better_Than_a_Pornstar/
Don't forget, if you have a link or a topic you'd like me to explore, email me.
Till next time,
Shelly
2/3/12
Interesting Goal Article
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By Trent Hamm
First of all, what exactly is a goal? A goal is the result toward which effort is directed; in other words, a goal is the outcome of a period of directed activity. Goals can be over any timeframe: for example, I often set very short term goals, such as finishing my grocery shopping in thirty minutes with no extra items in the cart beyond what's on my list. I also have very long term goals, such as writing a check for my dream home at age 45 and retiring several years after that.
Goals are great because they put a carrot at the end of the stick, guiding you down a path that leads to something you truly want to accomplish. However, the truth is that we often set goals we cannot meet - and the result of that is not only the lack of reaching a goal, but the sense of failure that comes along with it. We beat ourselves up over the fact that we can't lose that extra twenty pounds and keep it off and our sense of self-worth goes down.
Why does this failure happen? Obviously, there are as many causes for failure as there are grains of sand in the desert, but the root causes generally boil down to several groups, three of which I'd like to focus on:
A goal that isn't clear Setting a goal of "saving money" or "losing weight" merely sets you up for failure because it isn't clear what success actually is.
A goal that's overly optimistic Optimistic goals are great, but setting goals like paying off your home in a year when you owe more than your annual income is probably not going to happen unless you've got some sort of trick up your sleeve.
A goal that's too distant Again, distant goals are wonderful, but they require diligence. Merely setting a goal isn't enough.
In each of these cases, you can head off potential challenges to reaching the goal by putting in extra effort when you define the goal right off the bat. Let's work through an example to see how you can do this in your own life.
Let's say your goal is to save money for a house; a fine goal, indeed. However, it has some problems that make it difficult for anyone to achieve.
It's not clear and specific Whenever you define a goal, you should make sure it answers a few basic questions with as much specificity as possible: What? When? How?
What is the goal? Obviously, to save money for a house. But what kind of house? What will it cost? Where will the house be? Will it be pre-owned, or will you build your own? How much of the down payment do you plan to cover?
When is the goal? When do you want to be moving into that house? One year? Five years? Ten years?
How will you get there? Where will this money for savings come from? Right now, you're not saving, so you have to define what exactly will change in order for you to begin saving at the rate needed to meet the specifics you've already set.
Using this process will transform the goal into something specific, ideally with specific savings goals each step along the way (weekly or monthly). These sub-goals are typically called milestones and can often be thought of as goals themselves: my goal for this month is to save $X, for example.
It's too optimistic Is it within the realm of reality for you to meet the goal you set? This is more of a balancing act than anything - you want to make it so that you're accomplishing something, but you also don't want to make it impossible. For example, going from barely breaking even each month to saving 40% of your paycheck will be extremely difficult for much people, so set the goal lower.
It's too distant Obviously, the best way to handle this is by setting milestones, particularly ones that at first give you a little bit of room to figure out how it's going to go. For savings goals, I generally find that a gently graduated approach works well: saving $X the first year, then saving more the second year and so on. This way, you find success at each point along the way.
So, using these tips, you can change your goal to something much more specific and tangible: "I am saving money for a $200,000 house in Iowa. I want to move in in five years and I want to have a 10% down payment in hand, so I will need to save $20,000 in five years. That breaks down to $4,000 a year, or $333 a month. For the first year, I'll save $300 a month, then add $20 a month each year after that. I will put this in a savings account that earns 5.05% APY interest."
This time around, you have a goal that's clearly defined, with specific action points for you to follow. You can now start working towards this goal immediately, instead of it being nebulous and easy to postpone and forget about.
I receive several newsletters daily and this one came to my email on January 29, 2012 about setting goals. I thought I would pass it on from www.goalsontrack.com
8/17/10
Article: 9 Ways Happiness Leads to Success
9 Ways Happiness Leads to Success
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The psychological literature clearly shows there is a strong relationship between success and happiness. For example, people who have a comfortable income, or high status in society are usually happiest. But which one comes first, happiness or success?There's almost an unwritten assumption that it is primarily success that leads to happiness. This is tacitly backed up by psychological research which tends to talk about how success affects happiness.
Of course it's not an either/or situation. The two are probably interrelated in all sorts of complicated ways. But to only talk about how success leads to happiness is ignoring half the story. So says psychologist Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky and colleagues who have pointed out there is plenty of evidence that happiness can, in fact, lead to success (Lyubomirsky, King & Diener, 2005).
The best evidence that happiness causes success comes from experimental studies. These usually work by inducing participants into positive and negative moods and then comparing their behavior in particular situations like social interactions or health behaviors.
These studies have produced a raft of fascinating results, finding that people in a positive mood are more likely to:
- Talk to others. In one experiment men in a positive mood were more likely to talk to a woman and to make self-disclosures, which are important in social relations.
- Be interested in leisure activities. People in a good mood want to throw a party, go on vacation or go out for a meal.
- Enjoy those social interactions and leisure activities more.
- Resolve conflicts effectively. Studies have found people in a good mood are more likely to try and collaborate rather than avoid conflict and compete when they are put in a positive mood.
- Help others. When in a good mood, people are more likely to display what psychologists call 'pro-social behavior' - helping others and being generous with both time and money.
- Feel healthier. Experimental evidence shows that people in a good mood experience less pain and perceive themselves to be more healthy.
- Be more creative. People in a positive mood are more likely to think with originality and flexibility - perhaps through encouraging playfulness.
- Perform complex tasks better. Somewhat controversial this one but some evidence supports it although it probably depends on the nature of the task.
- Attribute success to their own skills. Good moods improve people's self-efficacy (our confidence in our own abilities).
Making room for happiness
How we think about happiness and success has profound implications for how we run our lives. If we think that success mainly leads to happiness then we are more motivated to focus on success to the exclusion of happiness right now, assuming that happiness will naturally flow from success when we obtain it.If the psychological research is right, though, the strategy would still be to pursue success, but not, crucially, to the exclusion of happiness. Feeling better in the moment is not only more pleasant but is also likely to open our minds to opportunities at work, play and in our personal relationships. It's recognizing and taking these opportunities that will lead us to success.
References
Lyubomirsky, S., King, L. & Diener, E. (2005) The benefits of frequent positive affect: Does happiness lead to success? Psychological Bulletin, 131, 803-855.
12/27/09
How to get the Most out of Life.
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I read this article in the Guidepost and had to share it.
6 Questions to Ask Yourself to
Get the Most Out of Life
Start living!
I love reading lists of things to do before you die , but after reading several of these lists, I've realized that each list is a very personal thing. It can only apply to the writer of the list, and not to all human beings in general. No such list can do that.
And think about this: if you're trying to follow a list of things to do before you die...trying to check things off the list, just to say you've done it...what's the point, really? To be able to tell people you've done it? To follow the life prescription of some writer?
I won't try to tell you what to do before you die...but I will suggest some questions to figure out how to live...right now. Each and every day
Because you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life.
1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it?
When someone dies (two of my kids' grandmother just died, so I've been thinking about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have with the people you love. They can go at any time—as can you. And so you must make the most of this time.
If you aren't spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a family member, let it go and reconcile. If you've done something to hurt a loved one, ask for forgiveness. Drop the pride, and make up. If you haven't seen someone in awhile, call them now to set up a date.
2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me?What have you always wanted to do? Maybe something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do but are afraid of failing? What fears are stopping you? And what would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued your dream?
If you're already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. You're doing awesome!
3. Am I doing something that matters?
There's a difference between doing work, and doing work that really matters. Much of the time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with busy-work, stuff that doesn't make much difference, and that's sadly a waste of our lives.
Recently on Dumb Little Man [1], writer Ali Hale suggested you ask yourself, "Will this matter in five years?" I think this is a great question. It helps you distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but not matter in a few years, and tasks and projects and goals with high impact that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of others.
4. What am I doing to help others?
Kind of ironically, you get the most out of life not just by taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If you're not doing anything to help others, this is a good time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis, and you'll make kindness a habit.
5. Am I as good a person as I want to be?I ask this of myself all the time. Sometimes, when I'm impatient or selfish or less-than-helpful, I think back on what I've said and done and realize that I could have done better. Instead of beating myself up about it, I endeavor to try harder, to remember to allow my better angels to guide me, to rise above the trivialities of life to a higher plane.
It's not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. It's easier to be selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your life? Give it some thought, and act accordingly.
6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and energy?You can do all the right things, and yet live a life that's dull and sluggish. If you let your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes you have left on illness. Instead, learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your life. And then direct that energy into something you're passionate about. If you haven't found that passion (or passions), start looking. You'll thank me. :)
This story, first published on Zen Habits [2] /
http://www.guideposts.com/story/get-a-life
12/7/09
Successful? I'm Working On It
There have been so many times that I've wanted to stop dead in my tracks, drop everything, scream, fall on floor, curl up on floor, and cry like a baby!!!! Family, work, school, volunteer efforts, and life in general seem to kick my ass!!!A while back, I decided to look online for online help, tips, advice, as well as other things and decided that the best medicine for what I need, (other than a shot of whiskey every hour) was the support and advice from other over extended women like myself.
In this blog I hope to give a little comfort as well as get some comfort.
Monthly I'll be posting links, advice, and (hopefully) helpful tips to all you over worked, unappreciated, over extended women who feel the same way I do.
If you have any tips, suggestions, or even the need to scream, cuss, or vent,
Please feel free
This Blog Is For You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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