Showing posts with label Self Help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self Help. Show all posts

7/17/12

Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth

Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth


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Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth

May 30, 2011 by
Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth
Throughout you life’s journey, you will constantly encounter ‘demons’ that seek to sabotage your passion, motivation and inspiration. These demons are personal limitations you place on yourself, creating a negative energy within you.
Don’t lose faith – the demons are not an indication of a weakness. They are a test of your determination. They do not want you to change, they like you just the way you are. They will battle you along the way, but it is a battle you can win.
Here are 4 of the most common demons, and some steps to help win the battle:
1. Unrealistic Expectations – perfectionism is most often due to an over-zealous plan. We are all guilty of wanting too much too soon.
You may not follow through on your plan because you chose a goal that is too large, or worse yet, one that is not in-line with your values.
You may have taken a path that others chose for you, that just doesn’t feel right.
Don’t fear. Step back, and be truthful about the issue. Ask yourself if this is really what you want to do? If not, change paths – the choice is always yours.
Is the goal overwhelming? Are you shutting down? Then break it down into bit-size chunks.
Most importantly, be true to yourself always, and don’t let your situation obscure your path.
2. Self Sabotage – this is the demon that loves to play with you. Many of us give up on our goals and dreams because we don’t feel we deserve the rewards for achieving them.
You may feel uncomfortable when things are going well. That is the demon playing with your mind.
3. Lack of Focus – this is my primary problem. All the things you want to accomplish, and the goals you need to complete, start to flash through your brain at once, causing confusion and frustration.
A great analogy to think about is juggling. To keep the objects in the air, all the juggler really needs to do is focus on one object at a time. The one object that matters the most for that moment. If the juggler scatters her attention to all the objects at once they will drop everything.
The same happens to you. To overcome this, your first action should be to act in the moment. What one action can you take right now that will clear your mind and re-establish your focus on the right goal(s)? You will instinctively know what to do.
4. Resistance to Change – have you made a positive change, only to fall back to the old, negative habit? This is a natural occurrence – our subconscious mind has an attachment to old, familiar patterns and habits, no matter how damaging they are.
Keep it simple. Change has 2 basic steps:
Making the desired change. Maintaining that change.
Maintaining change requires you to continue with the new habit pattern long enough for it to become familiar to your subconscious. Then it becomes a new, positive habit.
We all encounter these demons. You have the tools inside of you to achieve the ultimate success you desire.
To your ultimate success – TNTAnderson
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2/3/12

Interesting Goal Article

English: ceramic piggy bank
English: ceramic piggy bank (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
How To Define A Tangible, Reachable Personal Finance Goal
By Trent Hamm

First of all, what exactly is a goal? A goal is the result toward which effort is directed; in other words, a goal is the outcome of a period of directed activity. Goals can be over any timeframe: for example, I often set very short term goals, such as finishing my grocery shopping in thirty minutes with no extra items in the cart beyond what's on my list. I also have very long term goals, such as writing a check for my dream home at age 45 and retiring several years after that.
Goals are great because they put a carrot at the end of the stick, guiding you down a path that leads to something you truly want to accomplish. However, the truth is that we often set goals we cannot meet - and the result of that is not only the lack of reaching a goal, but the sense of failure that comes along with it. We beat ourselves up over the fact that we can't lose that extra twenty pounds and keep it off and our sense of self-worth goes down.
Why does this failure happen? Obviously, there are as many causes for failure as there are grains of sand in the desert, but the root causes generally boil down to several groups, three of which I'd like to focus on:
A goal that isn't clear Setting a goal of "saving money" or "losing weight" merely sets you up for failure because it isn't clear what success actually is.
A goal that's overly optimistic Optimistic goals are great, but setting goals like paying off your home in a year when you owe more than your annual income is probably not going to happen unless you've got some sort of trick up your sleeve.
A goal that's too distant Again, distant goals are wonderful, but they require diligence. Merely setting a goal isn't enough.
In each of these cases, you can head off potential challenges to reaching the goal by putting in extra effort when you define the goal right off the bat. Let's work through an example to see how you can do this in your own life.
Let's say your goal is to save money for a house; a fine goal, indeed. However, it has some problems that make it difficult for anyone to achieve.
It's not clear and specific Whenever you define a goal, you should make sure it answers a few basic questions with as much specificity as possible: What? When? How?
What is the goal? Obviously, to save money for a house. But what kind of house? What will it cost? Where will the house be? Will it be pre-owned, or will you build your own? How much of the down payment do you plan to cover?
When is the goal? When do you want to be moving into that house? One year? Five years? Ten years?
How will you get there? Where will this money for savings come from? Right now, you're not saving, so you have to define what exactly will change in order for you to begin saving at the rate needed to meet the specifics you've already set.
Using this process will transform the goal into something specific, ideally with specific savings goals each step along the way (weekly or monthly). These sub-goals are typically called milestones and can often be thought of as goals themselves: my goal for this month is to save $X, for example.
It's too optimistic Is it within the realm of reality for you to meet the goal you set? This is more of a balancing act than anything - you want to make it so that you're accomplishing something, but you also don't want to make it impossible. For example, going from barely breaking even each month to saving 40% of your paycheck will be extremely difficult for much people, so set the goal lower.
It's too distant Obviously, the best way to handle this is by setting milestones, particularly ones that at first give you a little bit of room to figure out how it's going to go. For savings goals, I generally find that a gently graduated approach works well: saving $X the first year, then saving more the second year and so on. This way, you find success at each point along the way.
So, using these tips, you can change your goal to something much more specific and tangible: "I am saving money for a $200,000 house in Iowa. I want to move in in five years and I want to have a 10% down payment in hand, so I will need to save $20,000 in five years. That breaks down to $4,000 a year, or $333 a month. For the first year, I'll save $300 a month, then add $20 a month each year after that. I will put this in a savings account that earns 5.05% APY interest."
This time around, you have a goal that's clearly defined, with specific action points for you to follow. You can now start working towards this goal immediately, instead of it being nebulous and easy to postpone and forget about.

I receive several newsletters daily and this one came to my email on January 29, 2012 about setting goals. I thought I would pass it on from www.goalsontrack.com


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8/17/10

More on Success = Happiness

January 4th, 2006 in Lifehack, Lifestyle

Happiness Leads to Success

Ever see any successful people who is sad and sorrow? You probably can’t find too many examples. An article called The recipe for success: get happy and you will get ahead in life at Guardian Unlimited shows that people with happiness likes to try new things and challenge themselves, and these actions will lead them to success in work, health and relationship.
This is quite logical: Willing to try new things is a way of express their creativity, and creative people tend to have high successful of solving difficult questions. They will be more successful at work and relationship, as those areas sometimes surround with difficult questions.
The article also suggested happiness may lead to stronger immune systems, hence healthier. With all those benefits, it is ideal to increase your positive thinking and emotions. However do it with care:
… “Our work suggests that sad people should try to increase the frequency of positive emotions in their lives by doing things that make them feel happy, even temporarily,” said Prof Lyubomirsky, whose research is published in the Psychological Bulletin today.
But there is a caveat: your happiness boosters should not be dangerous, like driving fast, or counter-productive, like eating lots of chocolate.
If you can raise your spirits, the benefits can be manifold. “Happy people are more likeable and more sociable. They are also better able to cope with stress and likely to be healthier and live longer.”…
Try these different ways to lead to happiness.
The recipe for success: get happy and you will get ahead in life – [Guardian Unlimited]

12/27/09

How to get the Most out of Life.

English: Zen Habits Logo
English: Zen Habits Logo (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I read this article in the Guidepost and had to share it.

6 Questions to Ask Yourself to

Get the Most Out of Life

Start living!


I love reading lists of things to do before you die , but after reading several of these lists, I've realized that each list is a very personal thing. It can only apply to the writer of the list, and not to all human beings in general. No such list can do that.
And think about this: if you're trying to follow a list of things to do before you die...trying to check things off the list, just to say you've done it...what's the point, really? To be able to tell people you've done it? To follow the life prescription of some writer?
I won't try to tell you what to do before you die...but I will suggest some questions to figure out how to live...right now. Each and every day
Because you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life.
1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it?
When someone dies (two of my kids' grandmother just died, so I've been thinking about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have with the people you love. They can go at any time—as can you. And so you must make the most of this time.
If you aren't spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a family member, let it go and reconcile. If you've done something to hurt a loved one, ask for forgiveness. Drop the pride, and make up. If you haven't seen someone in awhile, call them now to set up a date.
2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me?What have you always wanted to do? Maybe something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do but are afraid of failing? What fears are stopping you? And what would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued your dream?
If you're already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. You're doing awesome!
3. Am I doing something that matters?
There's a difference between doing work, and doing work that really matters. Much of the time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with busy-work, stuff that doesn't make much difference, and that's sadly a waste of our lives.
Recently on Dumb Little Man [1], writer Ali Hale suggested you ask yourself, "Will this matter in five years?" I think this is a great question. It helps you distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but not matter in a few years, and tasks and projects and goals with high impact that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of others.
4. What am I doing to help others?
Kind of ironically, you get the most out of life not just by taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If you're not doing anything to help others, this is a good time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis, and you'll make kindness a habit.
5. Am I as good a person as I want to be?I ask this of myself all the time. Sometimes, when I'm impatient or selfish or less-than-helpful, I think back on what I've said and done and realize that I could have done better. Instead of beating myself up about it, I endeavor to try harder, to remember to allow my better angels to guide me, to rise above the trivialities of life to a higher plane.
It's not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. It's easier to be selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your life? Give it some thought, and act accordingly.
6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and energy?You can do all the right things, and yet live a life that's dull and sluggish. If you let your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes you have left on illness. Instead, learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your life. And then direct that energy into something you're passionate about. If you haven't found that passion (or passions), start looking. You'll thank me. :)
This story, first published on Zen Habits [2] /
http://www.guideposts.com/story/get-a-life
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