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7/17/12

Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth

Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth


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Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth

May 30, 2011 by
Stop the 4 Demons of Personal Growth
Throughout you life’s journey, you will constantly encounter ‘demons’ that seek to sabotage your passion, motivation and inspiration. These demons are personal limitations you place on yourself, creating a negative energy within you.
Don’t lose faith – the demons are not an indication of a weakness. They are a test of your determination. They do not want you to change, they like you just the way you are. They will battle you along the way, but it is a battle you can win.
Here are 4 of the most common demons, and some steps to help win the battle:
1. Unrealistic Expectations – perfectionism is most often due to an over-zealous plan. We are all guilty of wanting too much too soon.
You may not follow through on your plan because you chose a goal that is too large, or worse yet, one that is not in-line with your values.
You may have taken a path that others chose for you, that just doesn’t feel right.
Don’t fear. Step back, and be truthful about the issue. Ask yourself if this is really what you want to do? If not, change paths – the choice is always yours.
Is the goal overwhelming? Are you shutting down? Then break it down into bit-size chunks.
Most importantly, be true to yourself always, and don’t let your situation obscure your path.
2. Self Sabotage – this is the demon that loves to play with you. Many of us give up on our goals and dreams because we don’t feel we deserve the rewards for achieving them.
You may feel uncomfortable when things are going well. That is the demon playing with your mind.
3. Lack of Focus – this is my primary problem. All the things you want to accomplish, and the goals you need to complete, start to flash through your brain at once, causing confusion and frustration.
A great analogy to think about is juggling. To keep the objects in the air, all the juggler really needs to do is focus on one object at a time. The one object that matters the most for that moment. If the juggler scatters her attention to all the objects at once they will drop everything.
The same happens to you. To overcome this, your first action should be to act in the moment. What one action can you take right now that will clear your mind and re-establish your focus on the right goal(s)? You will instinctively know what to do.
4. Resistance to Change – have you made a positive change, only to fall back to the old, negative habit? This is a natural occurrence – our subconscious mind has an attachment to old, familiar patterns and habits, no matter how damaging they are.
Keep it simple. Change has 2 basic steps:
Making the desired change. Maintaining that change.
Maintaining change requires you to continue with the new habit pattern long enough for it to become familiar to your subconscious. Then it becomes a new, positive habit.
We all encounter these demons. You have the tools inside of you to achieve the ultimate success you desire.
To your ultimate success – TNTAnderson
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2/3/12

Interesting Goal Article

English: ceramic piggy bank
English: ceramic piggy bank (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
How To Define A Tangible, Reachable Personal Finance Goal
By Trent Hamm

First of all, what exactly is a goal? A goal is the result toward which effort is directed; in other words, a goal is the outcome of a period of directed activity. Goals can be over any timeframe: for example, I often set very short term goals, such as finishing my grocery shopping in thirty minutes with no extra items in the cart beyond what's on my list. I also have very long term goals, such as writing a check for my dream home at age 45 and retiring several years after that.
Goals are great because they put a carrot at the end of the stick, guiding you down a path that leads to something you truly want to accomplish. However, the truth is that we often set goals we cannot meet - and the result of that is not only the lack of reaching a goal, but the sense of failure that comes along with it. We beat ourselves up over the fact that we can't lose that extra twenty pounds and keep it off and our sense of self-worth goes down.
Why does this failure happen? Obviously, there are as many causes for failure as there are grains of sand in the desert, but the root causes generally boil down to several groups, three of which I'd like to focus on:
A goal that isn't clear Setting a goal of "saving money" or "losing weight" merely sets you up for failure because it isn't clear what success actually is.
A goal that's overly optimistic Optimistic goals are great, but setting goals like paying off your home in a year when you owe more than your annual income is probably not going to happen unless you've got some sort of trick up your sleeve.
A goal that's too distant Again, distant goals are wonderful, but they require diligence. Merely setting a goal isn't enough.
In each of these cases, you can head off potential challenges to reaching the goal by putting in extra effort when you define the goal right off the bat. Let's work through an example to see how you can do this in your own life.
Let's say your goal is to save money for a house; a fine goal, indeed. However, it has some problems that make it difficult for anyone to achieve.
It's not clear and specific Whenever you define a goal, you should make sure it answers a few basic questions with as much specificity as possible: What? When? How?
What is the goal? Obviously, to save money for a house. But what kind of house? What will it cost? Where will the house be? Will it be pre-owned, or will you build your own? How much of the down payment do you plan to cover?
When is the goal? When do you want to be moving into that house? One year? Five years? Ten years?
How will you get there? Where will this money for savings come from? Right now, you're not saving, so you have to define what exactly will change in order for you to begin saving at the rate needed to meet the specifics you've already set.
Using this process will transform the goal into something specific, ideally with specific savings goals each step along the way (weekly or monthly). These sub-goals are typically called milestones and can often be thought of as goals themselves: my goal for this month is to save $X, for example.
It's too optimistic Is it within the realm of reality for you to meet the goal you set? This is more of a balancing act than anything - you want to make it so that you're accomplishing something, but you also don't want to make it impossible. For example, going from barely breaking even each month to saving 40% of your paycheck will be extremely difficult for much people, so set the goal lower.
It's too distant Obviously, the best way to handle this is by setting milestones, particularly ones that at first give you a little bit of room to figure out how it's going to go. For savings goals, I generally find that a gently graduated approach works well: saving $X the first year, then saving more the second year and so on. This way, you find success at each point along the way.
So, using these tips, you can change your goal to something much more specific and tangible: "I am saving money for a $200,000 house in Iowa. I want to move in in five years and I want to have a 10% down payment in hand, so I will need to save $20,000 in five years. That breaks down to $4,000 a year, or $333 a month. For the first year, I'll save $300 a month, then add $20 a month each year after that. I will put this in a savings account that earns 5.05% APY interest."
This time around, you have a goal that's clearly defined, with specific action points for you to follow. You can now start working towards this goal immediately, instead of it being nebulous and easy to postpone and forget about.

I receive several newsletters daily and this one came to my email on January 29, 2012 about setting goals. I thought I would pass it on from www.goalsontrack.com


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11/1/10

What Is Your Definition of SUCCESS?

English: Amercian self-help writer Napoleon Hi...
English: Amercian self-help writer Napoleon Hill (1883-1970) holding his book, "Think and Grow Rich". (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
We all have our own definition of certain words and it seems SUCCESS is on the top of that list. My idea of success may be very different from that of my neighbors, and her's different from another. Who is to say "Who's RIGHT and Who's WRONG?" While thinking about this continuously I found a couple other sites that asked the same question.

What Does Success Look Like To You?
http://www.streetdirectory.com/travel_guide/10858/self_improvement_and_motivation/what_does_success_look_like_to_you.html 

So many of us want success, but how many of us really know what we mean when we say it? And please….. don’t blurt out some superficial “bling and glam" definition like VH1 defines it on “The Fabulous Life of ……" The expensive cars, the safe full of jewelry and the massive homes on every continent are only fruits of success, not success itself. Rather, Success is the realization and accomplishment of worthy goals. They are those purpose driven milestones that we set in our lives based on our values, beliefs and ambitions. You know them when you see them because they bring a sense of fulfillment and peace of mind when actively pursued. On the flip side, however, they increase our level of anxiety and frustration when we let fear and complacency stop us from pursuing them. You should know that feelings of fear are part of the process, but you need to acknowledge that fear and move through it because I guarantee you that if you don’t take time to set and actively pursue (purpose driven) goals, you will most certainly be destined to work on achieving someone else’s. And we all know how that feels, right?
So once again, I ask what does Success look like to you? Can you tell me what it looks like? Feels like? Taste like? In your minds eye how are you acting, dressing and being in the midst of your success? What I am asking you to do here is gain a crystal clear image of exactly what it is that you want to attain. In your heart, who do you really want to become? Earl Nightingale states it so clearly. He says, "People with goals succeed because they know where they are going... It's as simple as that.". In other words, clarity is power and the successful person is like any other person, they just have laser-like focus.
So now that I have rattled off all these questions and gotten your brain going a mile a minute wondering “Will I ever find success?" I’ve taken the liberty to outline six steps that will help you identify what success looks like for you.
Six steps for identifying What Success Looks Like for You:
1.Identify your purpose. We are all here for a reason, to serve some purpose. I encourage you to really look within yourself and think about that thing(s) that inspires you. Think about that thing that if you don’t surrender to it will continue to nag and gnaw at your conscious and make you miserable because you keep resisting it.
2.Determine WHY you want what you want. You need a strong enough reason to push you to success because your drive, passion and persistence is what will get you through the obstacles, challenges and hurdles that you will surely confront along the way. Experts say, 80% of Success is WHY and 20% is HOW.
3.Document your Vision! Denis Waitley reminds us that “The secret to productive goal setting is in establishing clearly defined goals, writing them down and then focusing on them several times a day with words, pictures and emotions as if we've already achieved them." Remember a goal that is not written down is a wish!
4.Contemplate your self as having, being and doing exactly what you want to have, be and do. Make a mental blueprint of your success. Visualize it! See it! Feel it! Believe in it!
5.Find a role model. Someone who is already successful doing that thing that you want to do. Studying how they achieved their success will help to accelerate yours.
6.Take action! We can have all the best intentions, but your real power and success, will come from consistent action taken daily against the documented goals that you have set for yourself. Without action, you could have the hottest idea and the tightest business plan and you would still fail. Whereas a “so what who cares" idea and an inadequate business plan often produces success when accompanied by sufficient action.
Okay, so there, now that you have the necessary tools to start you on the path to success, I urge you to get started immediately. Don’t let 2005 roll in with out having developed your plans for success.
“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along."

-Napoleon Hill
Signature of Napoleon Hill
Signature of Napoleon Hill (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


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http://www.streetdirectory.com/travel_guide/9083/self_improvement_and_motivation/success_in_an_ever_changing_world.html
11/1/10

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8/17/10

More on Success = Happiness

January 4th, 2006 in Lifehack, Lifestyle

Happiness Leads to Success

Ever see any successful people who is sad and sorrow? You probably can’t find too many examples. An article called The recipe for success: get happy and you will get ahead in life at Guardian Unlimited shows that people with happiness likes to try new things and challenge themselves, and these actions will lead them to success in work, health and relationship.
This is quite logical: Willing to try new things is a way of express their creativity, and creative people tend to have high successful of solving difficult questions. They will be more successful at work and relationship, as those areas sometimes surround with difficult questions.
The article also suggested happiness may lead to stronger immune systems, hence healthier. With all those benefits, it is ideal to increase your positive thinking and emotions. However do it with care:
… “Our work suggests that sad people should try to increase the frequency of positive emotions in their lives by doing things that make them feel happy, even temporarily,” said Prof Lyubomirsky, whose research is published in the Psychological Bulletin today.
But there is a caveat: your happiness boosters should not be dangerous, like driving fast, or counter-productive, like eating lots of chocolate.
If you can raise your spirits, the benefits can be manifold. “Happy people are more likeable and more sociable. They are also better able to cope with stress and likely to be healthier and live longer.”…
Try these different ways to lead to happiness.
The recipe for success: get happy and you will get ahead in life – [Guardian Unlimited]

3/30/10

Succeed In Life

The X-factor... From-
 http://www.affirmations-for-success.com/succeed-in-life.html

Copyright © 2004 Neil Millar


Would you agree that today most of us have the same set of opportunities and the same set potential?
If you agree with me, then perhaps you might like to consider this puzzling question: if we all have the same opportunities and potential why are some people more successful than others?



It could be said that some people are more privileged than others, and while this is certainly true, you could argue that there is proof in every day life of people who started off with zero and went on to accumulate incredible wealth. It could be said that some people have better academic ability than others and while this is true you could argue the case of all the people who achieved success after years of under-achieving in education. It could be said that some have more talent than others, and while this is true, there is always someone who has achieved huge success based on determination and a lot less talent.
And it could be said that there are always exceptions to rules... and if this is the case then I question how, if there are exceptions to rules, the rule came to be a rule in the first place!

I’m a writer: a novelist and an author of personal development material and as such, I’m a keen researcher because I want my work to have depth. What I want to share with you is some of that research - research that highlights a couple of, in my opinion, the vital steps to success in any endeavor.

What I’ve found is that the successful people start with a couple of very important qualities. These qualities, I believe, are so vital to success that, if you took it away, I doubt they could ever succeed.

What’s more is this: most people who have not, or are not succeeding in life in a way they would desire fail to do these two things. So let me enlighten you…

People who succeed - people who live life with a purpose - know what they want to achieve right at the beginning of their adventure to success. They are clear on their life path or Life Purpose. They know what they want in life and they select only opportunities that bring them close to the desired result. And the other thing they do?

People who succeed know who they want to be as they move towards their success on that path of Life Purpose. They use their past to shape their future, keeping what they like and what works and discarding what fails and thwarts them.

Think about it and see if you agree: if you knew what you wanted and got clear about who you are and how your past experience could be harnessed for the good of mankind then would anything be able to stop you if you consistently applied yourself in that direction?
I doubt it!




This is an Awesome site with so much information and help on helping ANYONE succeed. Check it out
http://www.affirmations-for-success.com/succeed-in-life.html

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Neil Millar, author of the adventure novel with personal growth, Black Water and the personal growth books Greater Steps to Happiness and Be the Hero in your Own Life, writes newsletter articles for Unstoppable Life along with Life Purpose coach, Jo Ball.





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12/27/09

How to get the Most out of Life.

English: Zen Habits Logo
English: Zen Habits Logo (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I read this article in the Guidepost and had to share it.

6 Questions to Ask Yourself to

Get the Most Out of Life

Start living!


I love reading lists of things to do before you die , but after reading several of these lists, I've realized that each list is a very personal thing. It can only apply to the writer of the list, and not to all human beings in general. No such list can do that.
And think about this: if you're trying to follow a list of things to do before you die...trying to check things off the list, just to say you've done it...what's the point, really? To be able to tell people you've done it? To follow the life prescription of some writer?
I won't try to tell you what to do before you die...but I will suggest some questions to figure out how to live...right now. Each and every day
Because you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life.
1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it?
When someone dies (two of my kids' grandmother just died, so I've been thinking about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have with the people you love. They can go at any time—as can you. And so you must make the most of this time.
If you aren't spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a family member, let it go and reconcile. If you've done something to hurt a loved one, ask for forgiveness. Drop the pride, and make up. If you haven't seen someone in awhile, call them now to set up a date.
2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me?What have you always wanted to do? Maybe something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do but are afraid of failing? What fears are stopping you? And what would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued your dream?
If you're already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. You're doing awesome!
3. Am I doing something that matters?
There's a difference between doing work, and doing work that really matters. Much of the time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with busy-work, stuff that doesn't make much difference, and that's sadly a waste of our lives.
Recently on Dumb Little Man [1], writer Ali Hale suggested you ask yourself, "Will this matter in five years?" I think this is a great question. It helps you distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but not matter in a few years, and tasks and projects and goals with high impact that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of others.
4. What am I doing to help others?
Kind of ironically, you get the most out of life not just by taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If you're not doing anything to help others, this is a good time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis, and you'll make kindness a habit.
5. Am I as good a person as I want to be?I ask this of myself all the time. Sometimes, when I'm impatient or selfish or less-than-helpful, I think back on what I've said and done and realize that I could have done better. Instead of beating myself up about it, I endeavor to try harder, to remember to allow my better angels to guide me, to rise above the trivialities of life to a higher plane.
It's not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. It's easier to be selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your life? Give it some thought, and act accordingly.
6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and energy?You can do all the right things, and yet live a life that's dull and sluggish. If you let your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes you have left on illness. Instead, learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your life. And then direct that energy into something you're passionate about. If you haven't found that passion (or passions), start looking. You'll thank me. :)
This story, first published on Zen Habits [2] /
http://www.guideposts.com/story/get-a-life
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